Tantric or Sacred Sexuality
is to experience the merging of the
Divine (God or Goddess) using sexual energy as the fuel or vehicle. Sexual energy
is the most powerful force within the human body and can lead to profound
spiritual experiences accompanied by intense physical pleasure and bliss. Tantrikas use their sexual energy with awareness, love and respect, for
themselves and their partner.
Tantra views all of nature as energy, vibrating at
different rates and manifesting itself in a myriad of ways e.g., matter, space, time,
forces, people, animals, objects, etc. Harmony and peace are the result of
energies being in balance. Life flows without restriction. Often, due to various reasons, the
energies that make up the human body become unbalanced. This results in ill
health, sleeplessness, sluggishness, pain, distraction, and many other unwanted
conditions including unsatisfactory sexual performance.
The goal of the Tantric Polarity Process is to bring the body into a balanced
state before engaging in sexual activity. The benefits are many: including deep
relaxation, heightened sexual response and
better health. The process builds trust and intimacy between partners, and is
easy to do.
From the Tantric perspective there are many energy centers in the body.
The seven primary psycho-energetic vortices are referred to as Chakras
(loosely translated as "Wheels of Light"), each having a specific
function in the body. Most important is the Heart Chakra. There are three Chakras above and
three Chakras below the Heart Chakra. The upper three have to do with intellect and spirituality. The three lower Chakras deal with base human needs and emotions. The
Heart Chakra balances the Spirit with the flesh. This Chakra is the seat of
unconditional love and divine grace.
Allow 45 minutes for this process. Each step takes
about 5 minutes. Allow yourself to relax and take your time. Deep belly
breathing helps with relaxation, as does a hot shower or bath.
The receiver is to relax, breathe deeply and receive.
The giver is to be of service to their partner. This is an intimate process done
with love and respect. The giver will be placing their hands on various parts of
the receiver's body. This is done slowly, with awareness, avoiding jerky
The receiver is to be naked, laying flat on their back,
with legs flat and spread comfortably apart. A rolled up towel or pillow can be
placed under the neck for comfort. The giver is to sit on the right side of the receiver.
The giver orients him/herself in such
a way as to be able to reach the receiver's genitals with the right hand and the
top of the receiver's head with the left hand. It is very important for the
giver to find a comfortable position where they will not have to move their body
during the process.
Both giver and receiver spend about 5 minutes focusing on deep, relaxed
breathing. This is a very important step. Begin each breath with a relaxed
belly. Let your thoughts and concerns fade away. The giver rubs their hands together, creating heat. Shake the hands, away
from the receiver's body, and flick the fingers as if energy were sparking off
your fingers. Do this several times. Among other things, this energizes your
hands and prepares them for touching the receiver's body.
The giver places their left (negatively charged) hand, gently, on the
receivers Heart Chakra. This is located in the center of the chest, between the
nipples. You are touching the most intimate and beautiful part of the receiver.
This is their center and seat of Divine essence. The giver then places their RIGHT (positively charged) hand, gently on the
receivers Root Chakra. This is located between the anus and genitals. It is
clinically referred to as the Perineum. This is the foundation of survival and
human needs (food, shelter, money, etc.). It is also the place where a powerful
force (Kundalini) emanates from.
The giver keeps their hands in place for 5 minutes. Just relax, keep
breathing deeply, and visualize powerful energies coming from the earth and the
universe, flowing through your body and streaming out your hands into the
receiver's body. Become aware of your healing powers. Keeping your left hand on the receiver's heart, gently move your
to their genitals. If the receiver is a woman, allow your fingers to contact the
clitoris and vulva. If the receiver is a man, cup your hand over the testicles
and penis (Lingam). This is the seat of their sexual desire and procreative
power. Keep your hands in this position for 5 minutes.
Occasionally, gently rock your right hand to awaken this Chakra. The receiver
will likely experience sexual arousal. This indicates that energy is moving in
the body. Move your right hand to just below the receiver's navel, the center of their
personal power. Keep your left hand on their heart Chakra. Do this for 5
minutes. You are balancing the lower Chakras, that deal with money, sex and power
issues, with their sacred center, the heart. You are bringing infinite love and
wisdom into their human life form.
Move your right hand on top of your left hand. Keep both hands on the
receiver's heart for 5 minutes. Imagine all that you have to give, as friend,
healer and lover, flowing from your hands into their heart. Place your right hand on the receiver's heart and move your
left hand to
their throat. Be gentle, do not press down and just let your hand rest gently on
the throat Chakra . This is the source of their creative expression and
communication. Remain here for 5 minutes.
With the right hand in place on the receiver's
heart, move the left hand to
their forehead. This is the home of their intellect and psychic powers. Remain
at this center for 5 minutes. Move the left hand to the top or crown of the receiver's head. Keep the
right hand on their heart. The Crown Chakra is their connecting point to the Divine
and channels spiritual energy. Stay in this position for 5 minutes.
Gently, slowly and with total awareness, remove your hands from the
receiver's body. At this point they will most likely be in a deeply relaxed and
highly sensitized state. Withdraw your hands in a manner that they barely notice
it. Slowly, silently, move your body away from theirs and stand up. Walk away
from them, shake your hands, and flick your fingers again.
You may leave them in this state (lucid dreaming or meditative) or you can
begin another sexual activity. The
Lingam Massage or
Yoni Massage is most
effective after this process.