Any woman can be intensely aroused and easily
brought to climax through proper
oral stimulation. The combination of the "giver's" tongue and receiver's
clitoris brings two diverse anatomic areas with incredible sensitivity.
Both the the clitoris and tongue contain thousands of nerve receptors. We
are all aware of how sensitive our tongue is, particularly the tip.
Most certainly the tongue is significantly more sensitive than the finger tip.
The fact is that there is no other human
appendage or mechanical device more capable of pleasuring the clitoris
than the tongue. For this reason
most givers are capable of providing at least a basic form of
pleasure to the female when performing oral sex. The problem is that the
level of pleasure often falls far short of it's absolute potential.
Let us examine a few of the basic issues which
may impede or undermine this potential, bearing in mind that it is not our
objective to offend anyone, but simply to outline our viewpoint. We are
fully aware that our view will not be agreeable to everyone.
A woman should thoroughly cleanse (douche) her vagina prior
to engaging in oral. Although there will be a great deal of argument about
this point, the fact remains that the natural scent
of the vagina may not be pleasant. To take the position that
"natural" is always best is ignoring reality. Any form of body odor,
caused by perspiration is usually offensive. Why should the
vagina be different than the underarm for example?
Although not as essential as douching, a woman
should seriously consider grooming her pubic area. An overly hairy genital area is not going to be particularly
enticing to her partner. Again, there will be arguments in support of "naturalness", the inconvenience of
shaving and ongoing stubble maintenance issues. However if the woman is very hairy,
realize that this is not necessarily conducive to oral. No doubt there are
always exceptions. There are always givers who find an abundance of pubic
hair to be particularly appealing.
For those who seek to provide their partner with
a higher degree of oral pleasure the following should be considered.
is unique - Although women will generally
respond positively to all forms of oral stimulation, there are individual
likes and dislikes which need to be considered. Beginning with the particular
areas that may be stimulated. By far the most sensitive of these is the
clitoris or "clit". When un-aroused, the clitoris is sheltered beneath the
clitoral hood. The clit only appears after arousal. Although the external
(visible) element of the clitoris is often quite small, the internal
portion is extensive. The exposed clit is some ways similar to the head of
the male penis, only far more sensitive.
The giver must first relax the partner's yoni. A
good method of beginning the relaxation process is by kissing the clitoral hood
and along the labial folds. Lick along the edges of the labial folds, but do
not push your tongue into the vaginal opening. Pull on the labial
lips by grasping them with your lips. Pull, then release the right and left lip repeatedly.
As the women begins to relax she will gradually become
aroused. Her arousal will increase in a gradual manner and it's essential
understand and note what is most pleasurable for her. Every woman does not respond
equally to the same stimulation. Finding out what pleases her will be a
matter of trial and error. Her body language will serve as a guide to
understanding what she most desires, but if in doubt to sure to also
communicate verbally with your partner.
It's important to remember that the woman may
prefer "sucking" over "licking". While others like to
be "nibbled". Some women prefer
direct licking of the surface of clitoris, while others may find the
stimulation too intense. Many women are particularly fond of simultaneous
oral and G-spot massage (by finger).
Accessing the crown jewel: the clitoris. After
sufficient stimulation the clitoris will become enlarged and erect in a
similar to the male's penis. Since most of clitoris is hidden inside the
body one cannot see the full effect of the erection in most women. However
it's possible to kiss, lick or suck the head of the clitoris.
Providing one's partner with oral sex should be
mutually enjoyed, not only by the receiver but by the giver. The giver
will find great satisfaction in providing incredible pleasure, but also
gaining the unique ability of tuning into the female's most private
erogenous zone. It's extremely important that the giver not rush
through the process and overwhelm the yoni's pleasure receptors. The
giver should always proceed in a deliberate, step-by-step manner which
will allow the female to enjoy every individual sensation to its maximum