…meaning nectar of the goddess. A liquid most treasured and revered in ancient
Tantric literature. What exactly does it mean? Even modern medicine isn’t
exactly sure, much less in agreement. There is a good deal of mythology
surrounding the biological reality of what has been only recently termed
as “female ejaculation”.
primary source of much erroneous information about the nature of female
ejaculation seems to be attributable to those who seek to sensationalize and
exploit this relatively unexplored phenomenon, while others have been overly
gullible in accepting purely anecdotal evidence.
widely believed that there is a female counterpart to the male prostate;
technically known as “Skene’s” glands. Just as the male prostate, the ducts
these glands empty into the urethral canal. The liquid produced by the Skene’s
glands is not urine, but a thin clear fluid containing glucose and prostatic
acid. This chemical makeup is much more similar to semen (without sperm), than
it is to urine.
During sexual arousal the Skene’s glands may be stimulated in a way as to
release secretions into the urethral canal. These secretions are ultimately
expelled through the urethral opening (just as in male ejaculation). This
fluid "release" is entirely unrelated to “vaginal” secretions, who’s primary,
but not exclusive purpose is the lubrication of the vagina.
While there have been numerous claims of vast quantities of liquid expelled
during ejaculation, all fail to offer a biologically compelling explanation as
to the source, or reservoir used to store or produce such copious supplies of
juices. Skene’s glands are smaller in size than the male prostate, and
it would only seem logical to assume
that the amount of “ejaculate” would be commensurate. Regardless of the true
quantity, it is a fact, that it is possible for some women to expel (or ejaculate) prostatic fluid.
is this mysterious gland?
Skene’s gland is embedded in the wall of the urethra, and can be
indirectly felt through the upper vaginal wall, 2- 3” from the
entrance of the vagina.
Using the pads of one or more fingers, it can best be
identified as area of ridges. The center of this ridged surface, about the
size of a dime to half dollar, is known as the Grafenberg spot or G-spot. In
some women this may be more noticeable than others, particularly when in an
un-aroused state. During arousal the G-spot (which is made of erectile tissue)
fills with blood and swells to 2-3 times it’s normal size. After arousal it is
usually more easily identified and stimulated. Not all women are sensitive to
stimulation or find it pleasurable. Since indirect pressure is applied to the
bladder, some woman will feel the sensation to urinate. Breaking this
psychological barrier makes it possible for some women to expel prostatic
fluid, as a direct result of simultaneous stimulation of the G-spot and
muscle contractions surrounding the urethra.
a woman seeking to stimulate this area on her own, it would be advisable to do
so in a squatting position. The theory being that humans having evolved from
quadrupeds, a female’s sexual organs are biologically better designed for
entry from the rear Unlike the currently widely accepted missionary
position (face to face), rear entry has the advantage of exerting more direct
pressure and stimulation onto the G-spot, by the penis. Secondly there is a
greater chance of outward ejaculation (by the female), since the urethral
canal is not compressed in a way as to inhibit the flow of fluid out of
the urethral opening.
Although the ability of the female to ejaculate depends on a number of
factors, it must be recognized that it is not for everyone. Just as many men
are not receptive to prostate stimulation, many women are not sensitive to, or
do not necessarily enjoy G-spot stimulation.
those who desire to pursue the experience,
the following points should be considered as essential for success.
the G-spot [see illustration)
The ability to derive pleasurable sensations from G-spot massage.
Overcoming the fear of urinating, during arousal and G-spot stimulation.
Emptying the bladder immediately prior to experience, since most women fear that they will urinate as soon as they relax their PC
muscles. This will allow the woman to relax (or “let go”) and ejaculate.
Assure that the urethral tract not unduly pressured; compressing the urethra
may result in the emptying of ejaculate directly into the bladder (as
opposed to the urethral opening).