|Although it is rarely considered or appreciated, the face down position is
perhaps best for massaging the female body. This is not to imply that the
front should be neglected, only that the back should be paid more attention.
Why is the back so important? There are two
primary reasons. The first is simply a design of nature. In the natural world
males always approach (and join) with the female from the rear. Evolution has
designed the female genitalia to be entered from the rear, as opposed to the
face to face, western "missionary" position. Nerve endings of the female
genitalia are genetically arranged to be most responsive from the rear. The
inside of the thighs and labial lips are more sensitive to touch, when stroked
from the rear (as opposed to the front).
Some would argue that face to face intercourse is
more intense and fulfilling. This may be true on a purely emotional level,
even without optimizing the physiological connection. It's simply a matter of
which is more important, the mind or the body. During love making the mind is
often capable of reaching significantly higher levels than the physical being.
Another reason that massage from the back may have
an advantage, is that a woman often feel more comfortable and relaxed, as her
body is less exposed. The feeling of the "face down" position is conducive in fostering a
sense of well being, which in turn makes it easier for the woman to "let
carefully arranged and nurturing atmosphere is essential to achieving the
greatest possible pleasure. Plan on at least one hour (at a very minimum) of
completely undisturbed and uninterrupted time. The massage can be conducted on
a reasonably firm bed; a platform design is still better. The room should be
warm and draft free. A significant amount of oil (1-3 oz.) should be expended
during the massage. Always keep in mind that you can never apply too much oil.
Do not spare the oil, lavish it! Use only specially formulated massage oils
[we use citrus scented water soluble grape-seed oil in our studio]. A wide
range of scents are available, of which the most pleasing should be selected.
Be sure to arrange a number of bath size towels to protect the bedding from
the excess oil. Soothing music and candlelight will greatly enhance the
atmosphere. Turning off the telephone is absolutely essential! Prior to the
massage, it may be desirable to take a short shower, as opposed to a
hot bath. A bath often tends to loosen the outermost layer of skin, which when
waterlogged will shed (creating gritty particles) and interfere with the
Beginning the massage
Instruct the receiver lay face down; her face
resting either on her own crossed forearms or a flat pillow. You
(the giver) will be seated on the edge of the bed or platform. The receiver's
midsection may be covered with a towel, for the purpose of warmth and modesty
[depending on the depth of your relationship].
Begin the massage by exposing the receiver's
shoulders and neck. Pour a liberal amount of oil into the palm of your hand,
and rub both hands together vigorously so as to warm the hands as well as the
oil. Avoid pouring the oil directly onto the skin, unless it has been
previously heated. Although you are performing a sensual massage, the pressure
you exert may be firm enough to have some therapeutic value. Be sure to use
pressure so as not to tickle the receiver. Most particularly the neck,
shoulders, arms, hands, back, buttocks and legs. The genital region will
require the least pressure and the greatest sensitivity. The massage should be
performed in a radiating manner... neck and shoulders, arms and hands,
individual fingers, back, thighs, calves, feet and toes. As the receiver
becomes progressively more relaxed, the towel covering her waist may be
The buttocks may now be massaged in a circular motion, followed by long
vertical strokes beginning at the waist and ending at mid thigh. Each stroke
moving progressively further inside the thigh, toward the labial lips.
Alternately stroke the base of the crease between the buttocks, brushing along
the anus (rosebud). After stroking the rosebud, allow your hand to glide down
to the labia. This should be repeated in an up and down motion (from above the
rosebud to the labia and back up again). Do not penetrate the anus or vagina
during this phase of the massage.
Position the receiver's legs somewhat apart. Too wide is not necessary.
Gently grasp and stroke the labial lips with your fingers. After the
lubrication seeping from the receiver's vaginal opening becomes more evident,
begin to stroke the clitoral hood. If the clitoris is already exposed and
swollen, begin to rub it directly, using the pads of two fingers (index and
pointer). Be very careful not scratch with your fingernails! Vary the amount
of stimulation to clitoris, through speed and pressure. Ask the receiver which
she prefers. The answer may vary from one individual to another.
As her level of excitement grows begin gently reach into her vagina [which
should be quite open at this point] and massage sides of the vaginal opening.
You may continue to stimulate the clitoris with the pad of your thumb. Or you
might massage her rosebud with the pad of your thumb, while twirling the clitoris
with two other fingers. Do not enter her anus unless she desires this. In
which case it is recommended to use a latex glove, to be sure that there is no
possibility of irritating this most sensitive area (even short and well
manicured fingernails may cause discomfort). After
becoming aroused some women may reflexively begin to
raise their pelvis, by pulling in their knees closer to their chest. This
position not only raises their rear end, but further exposes the clitoris,
vaginal opening and rosebud. Caressing and stroking these magical elements
simultaneously, or alternately can produce a virtually endless cycle of orgasms.