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become "multi-orgasmic". It only requires a basic understanding of male
sexuality and certain techniques. Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal
of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking. Once a man
becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but
also more effectively satisfy his partner. Technically, multiple orgasms occur in succession, without
complete loss of sexual arousal in between. Women are blessed with the ability
to have multiple orgasms. Not many are aware that men with proper training,
can actually do the same. In the case of women, multiple orgasm means resuming sexual stimulation
shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few
minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed
experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is said to
be multi-orgasmic.
Most men mistakenly believe that being able to regain their erection as
soon as possible after ejaculation and reaching another climax within some
arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. This is false
because the true multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between
orgasms.
Multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation.
The
only exception being, when ejaculation accompanies the final orgasm in a
multi-orgasmic experience.
Before continuing it would be important to better
understand the technical process involved in the " Sexual Arousal
Cycle" *
1.
Excitement Phase
- Vasocongestion
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Erection
- Increased heart rate
- Partial testicular elevation and size increase (Tumescence)
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Nipple erection
2.
Plateau Phase
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Further increase in penis tip size and testicles
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Full testicular elevation
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Purple hue on corona (although not always)
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Cowper’s gland (pre-cum) secretions
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Hyperventilation
3.
Orgasm Phase
(Consists of Emission & Ejaculation)
Emission
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Sperm and fluid are expelled from the vas deferens,
seminal vesicles and prostate gland, causing seminal fluid fluid to
collect at the base of the urethral bulb near the prostate.
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Myotonia – muscular rigidity just before the release tension
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Blood pressure and respiratory rate increase further.
Ejaculatory Inevitability
(point of no return) There is a consciousness of imminent
ejaculation.
Ejaculation
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Bladder sphincter closes tightly
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Rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perinial muscles and penile
shaft propel semen outward.
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A slight clouding of consciousness
4.
Resolution Phase
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Erection loss
- Testes descend and scrotum thins
- Reversal in myotonia and vasocongestion
- Reduced heart rate and lowered blood pressure.
Multiple orgasms versus
Ejaculatory orgasms
Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near
ejaculation or "point of no return". At this point a man will
experience a series of genital contractions lasting three to five seconds.
These contractions are "pelvic orgasms" and at first feel like a "fluttering"
or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations will become
progressively more intense.
When approaching "the point of no return" the goal is
not to crest
over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain
control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing
the PC muscles.
Learning to control the PC
muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.
In the
diagram below, the plateau stage is represented roughly as a heightened state of
arousal which will eventually lead into orgasm if
stimulation is allowed to continue.
Notice
how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including
ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed fairly quickly
as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation occurs. In a
multiple orgasmic encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained
after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive
orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, if and when the
man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm. Ejaculation is optional, after several orgasms it may be decided not to ejaculate at all. In which case, the arousal
pattern closely follows that of a woman and gradually declines over about
an hour's time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.
How is multiple orgasm possible?
The male and female sexual "response cycles" are strikingly similar. The
primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women
are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after
the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate (not withstanding reports that
some women are able to ejaculate, as this has never been adequately
scientifically explained).
Ejaculation initiates the refractory period in males. During this time,
most men are unable to achieve another erection or even receive further
stimulation due to the loss of sexual tension and the penis is usually too
sensitive to touch. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate,
they do not have this annoying feature and are able to learn about and achieve
multiple orgasms much easier than men.
The first key
to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is
to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can
learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and
ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession,
orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during
ejaculation.
The second key
to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining
the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation.
The
ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle,
or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known.
You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in
mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If
this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before
you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC
muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn
upward.
Breathing Exercises
- Sit in a comfortable position relaxing the
shoulders.
- Place hands on the abdomen, just below the belly
button.
- Inhale deeply. Breathing deeply through the nose,
so that the belly pushes out.
- Exhale fully. Exhale to a point to a point of
which the belly contracts back to the spine. The pelvis and testicles may
feel as if they are pulling up slightly.
- Repeat this exercise from 9 to 36 times.
Preparing yourself
Having multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it will take a
great deal of preparation. As mentioned earlier, one of the first steps is to
discover the PC muscle. It’s essential to become intimately familiar with this
muscle in order to learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control
will come with experience, but most will come by strengthening it through
regular exercise. Once it’s been discovered where it is (most easily while
urinating), it can be exercised anywhere, without anyone knowing.
Practicing
- You can begin experimenting on your own at first (while masturbating).
- Make yourself comfortable and then begin masturbating as you might normally.
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Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you
would ejaculate). Contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of
ten.
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Allow yourself relax and take a few minutes break.
- Begin masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer
to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle.
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Continue masturbating while paying very special attention to your own
state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about
your own sexual response so that down the road you'll be more in control of
it.
Stopping
"right" before ejaculation
Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going
until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several
contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your
penis and perhaps even deeper inside your pelvis. As these contractions begin or preferably just
before (but still during the orgasm), stop all stimulation to the penis and
squeeze the PC muscle tight. You'll
probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back! Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off
your ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.
A small amount semen may seep out, but not with any
of the force you might normally experience during an unrestrained singular
orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start
masturbating again now. It should feel as though you are still very aroused, not
like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time
until you have another orgasm.
If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first
time, either your PC muscle isn't strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the
wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions
have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut stop the process completely. With practice you
will learn the timing.
Partnering
There are many possible techniques you can use to greatly increase your
success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can
practice is to share your experiences in becoming a multi-orgasmic man with
your romantic partner. If you are eventually successful, this can be a
wonderful opportunity for you to significantly increase the pleasure you both
receive during lovemaking.
Overcoming
problems
Undoubtedly the biggest obstacle most men will report when trying to
become multi-orgasmic is failure to squeeze their PC muscle sufficiently
during orgasm to ward off ejaculation. You may feel some contractions, but
do not stop squeezing at this point because a few ejaculatory contractions
are likely even if you are successful in eventually stopping them. If you
are successful, the contractions will stop before you ejaculate and you
should be able to resume stimulation without a loss of sensitivity, as would
be present during the refractory period after ejaculation.
Another common problem many men may report with these techniques is
failing to determine exactly where the boundaries of plateau, orgasm, and
ejaculation begin and end. If you cannot determine the difference between
orgasm and ejaculation, a key to becoming multi-orgasmic, you can only
succeed by accident and not intentionally.
Some men may try to stimulate themselves very quickly and rigorously, and
this is not the best way to become aware of your personal level of sexual
awareness. Taking the stimulation slower rather than faster will allow you
to discover your personal boundaries between arousal, plateau, and orgasm
more easily. With these discoveries you will have a much greater chance of
learning when to squeeze your PC muscle, when to stop stimulation, and when
to relax your PC muscle and resume stimulation to experience another orgasm.
Pelvic pressure after arousal.
Pressure in the pelvic area is a natural result of
increased blood flow into the genital area. If the level of this pressure is
uncomfortable, it will be helpful to breathe deeply, elevate the lower
extremities and massage the perineum and testicles lightly. This will help
the body assimilate the energy from the testicles to the rest of the body.
It would be best also to stay in a reclined position for 5 - 10 minutes.
Other
Benefits
It is quite possible that if you have other sexual problems such as
premature ejaculation, learning to become multi-orgasmic will help you
tremendously during lovemaking. Not only will you be able to greatly
prolong the session by suppressing ejaculation until you choose, but you
will be free to release your worries and anxiety and focus more on
pleasing your partner. The list of positive effects can be nearly endless!
Age
Some men may wonder if age can have any effect on the chances of
success in becoming multi-orgasmic. There's no reason why sexually mature
men of all ages shouldn't see the same high rate of success, assuming they
are sexually active and have a high level of personal sexual awareness.
If you have no trouble reaching singular orgasms
either by yourself or with a partner, then learning how to become
multi-orgasmic may only be a matter of patience, determination, and effort. If
you do have trouble having singular orgasms or opening up sexually with
yourself and your partner, however, then perhaps there are other issues that
you need to deal with before multiple orgasms will be a possibility for you.
This guide is not prepared to address any problems with orgasms beyond the
relatively simple matters discussed in this section. If you are experiencing
more serious problems, please consider consulting your healthcare provider or
a therapist. They should be able to provide you with the professional advice
that we are not equipped to handle.
Ancient Ideas
The concept of being a multi-orgasmic male is not new at all. Ancient
Chinese philosophers called Taoists, have known about this and many other
profound sexual concepts and practices thousands of years ago. Many of
these sexual secrets remain surprisingly unknown, even now in the age of
sexual awareness and liberation. Despite the fact that during the
1940s and 1950s several sex researchers in the West studied and confirmed the
ability of males to experience multiple orgasms. Even at present, the amount
of sexual ignorance, misdirection, and confusion is astonishing.
In
Closing
The bottom line is that your ability to have multiple orgasms depends
on your overall sexual awareness, and the strength and control of your PC
muscle among many other factors. As with all noteworthy achievements, this
is not something that can necessarily be accomplished all at once. While
reading this guide and having multiple orgasms in one night is certainly
possible, you should understand that it could take several weeks or even
months before you succeed. Your results will depend on your own personal
effort and determination.
* The preceding text includes
certain references from Masters & Johnson
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