At first blush
it seems a simple
proposition. Anyone can do it. However, the reality can be as different
as “chopsticks” is to a Brahms concerto. A “stick figure” compared to a to a Vermeer painting.
The male body must first be
understood before it may be played in the same manner as a virtuoso commands a
musical instrument. Unfortunately most women have only marginal or
little understanding of the male anatomy. The inevitable ineptitude often
produces sour notes. [Conversely the same can be said about men and their level of
appreciation for the female body, but this is another subject entirely.]
The problem stems from the fact
that male and female genitalia are entirely different from one another.
Understandably, the result is that it’s difficult for a woman to know how to
best touch a man. Despite the fact that a woman’s clitoris is something of
counterpart to a man’s penis, stimulating each to the pinnacle of arousal involves
very different techniques. This circumstance results in
a host of faulty assumptions, guesswork and experimentation. While some women may
mimic the techniques they might have seen in “Blue” movies, others may attempt
to refer to what they’ve read in a range of publications.
Ultimately the majority simply
proceed by trial and error, in the hope that their partners response will
serve as a guide. The drawback with this methodology is that many men are not
able to effectively communicate their desires verbally or may be embarrassed
to make use of “show & tell". Quite a few men may not even be aware of
the most effective techniques themselves.
Not surprisingly many men feel that women aren't
sufficiently skilled at handling penises. Specific complaints range from grips
which are too limp, to a lack conviction and exuberance. Women
seem hesitant to apply pressure, and often pull or tug at inappropriate
moments; continuously disrupting the all important rhythm.
Often women have little sense of
how to control the ebb and flow of orgasmic sensations. A woman’s hands are
capable of amazing erotic pleasuring, much more than most anyone can imagine.
It’s little appreciated that this is an acquired talent. Subtle techniques,
the male genitalia as well as adjacent erotic zones must first be
understood... continue to: